The Blog of indyjoe

I get so tired of seeing man-hating stories on here! I'll admit that there are jerks and scumbags out there, and I cant stand them because there's nothing "manly" about them and they give us all a bad rep. To be fair there are trashy, self-centered, and evil-minded women out there too. It just makes me sick to be lumped into the same group as those other pieces of filth....to be mistrusted and hated just because I'm male. There are plenty of nice and good guys out here, were not dead or handicapped. We just dont fit the cultural standard of the perfect man (we dont all have the "hot looks"). We let ourselves be known....but we are often laughed at, used and taken advantage of, ignored, or "just a friend". I always hated and never understood being told that I'm "too nice". I feel for these women who have had one bad experience after another. But perhaps they are just not looking in the right places or for the right men. It doesnt mean that we are all the same or that we all change into the jerks in time. Perhaps their standards are set a bit too high....remember the old saying "if it appears to be too good to be true, then it it probably is". There are really princes who appear to be toads, true love and happiness could be right under their noses. Give us guys a break will ya?

Over the past 10 years I have been unjustly accused of horrendous acts. First my ex wife accused me of beating her, then my brother accused me of sexually abusing him, then even here on EP I have been accused of being a child predator/molestor. None of these accusations has any fact or truth to them. I am totlly against any of these acts and  the people who commit them. I dont know or understand why people would want to say such horrible things about me when they have no evidence or proof to back it up, and none have ever attempted to alert authorities and press any charges. I guess it was just to hurt me...and they succeeded in that. My Ex-wife managed to ruin my reputation and cost me alot of people I thought were my friends. My brother created a rift between us that will never be mended. Thank the heavens I have friends here at EP who like me and know me well enough to disbelieve any of the statements should they be made. I know the truth and my wife knows the truth, and I guess thats what is most important. I thank all who stand behind me.

Ive gotten used to it over the years, but that doesnt mean it doesnt hurt or bother me. Yesterday I was supposed to have dinner out with my brother and family. The agreed upon time was between four and four-thirty. We (my wife and I) showed up at ten minutes to four, and we sat there waiting until almost twenty minutes to five....nobody showed up. My parents are usually a little late, and my brother lives on a schedule all his own. We had no idea where they were or if they were even still coming (sometimes I get lost in the shuffle when they do things). Anyway, we were hungry and had been waiting about fourty-five minutes and we decided we were tired of waiting (which we usually do on a fairly regular basis)..and left. We went to get something and took it home. We no sooner walked in the door when the phone rang, it was my brother. He said where are you guys at, and I said we just walked in the door. He said youre supposed to meet us here (at the restraunt), and I told him we were there and had been for since ten til four, we waited til almost twenty to five and nobody showed so we got something to eat and brought it home. He said that they got there at four- fifty, and I started to saiy something in response...he hung up on me. That sortof pissed me off, but we went ahead and ate what we had bought. about an hour or so later, the phone rang. This time it was my mom. She was pissed and said arent y'all coming? I was shocked and said we already ate, she said oh...wel Im sorry!! Once again, I am the bad guy....Im the trouble-maker....Im the asshole. They have always favored my brother, and no matter how he has treated them or how much he has pissed them off...he can do no wrong. I have always been the thorn in their side,no matter how obedient, responsible, or good I was. I could never please them. They even favor my wife over me....its a much longer story to explain all the details. But I always come across as the "bad guy" whenever I make any kind of decision for myself and dont cater to their will or whim. I just had to get this off my chest.

When my time on this planet is over, I have aready let it be known that I dont want to be laid out in a suit because its juts not me. When I am placed on "display", I want to be wearing jeans and a nice shirt so that people will see me in death as they did in life. I have taken that a step further...I have told my wife that I want the clothes removed before I am placed beneath the ground. I want to be buried naked, because I want to leave this world just as I came into it. I know this probably sounds strange to some people, but this is my final wish and hope it will be honored.